Being a parent is certainly one of the most pleasing and rewarding experiences of everyone’s life. In order to be a good parent it is imperative that you must know how to make your children feel valued and loved. You also need to teach them the difference between right and wrong things. Loving your child is one of the most important and very first steps towards being a good parent.
Love and Affection
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One of the best gifts you can give your child is certainly love and affection. Children need love and affection of their parents rather than expensive toys, yummy chocolates. You must make your child feel how much you really love or care for him or her; and a warm touch or a caring hug will work fine. You can heighten the confidence and happiness of your children by offering them a caring cuddle, a loving hug, an affectionate touch, a little support, a surprising gift, appreciation, approval and even a simple smile. It is also important to love your kids unconditionally. Let them know you love them always every day, no matter “if and what”. Don’t force them to adopt lifestyle or nature of anyone in order to earn your love and affection. Make your kids comfortable with love and affection from the birth; offering lots of hugs and some kisses. You should never beat or scold children, no matter how angry you are.
Praise and Appreciation
You must praise or appreciate your children if they do something good. Praising or appreciating your child for good things is one of the most important parts of being a good parent. It is your responsibility to make your ids feel proud of their achievements and every act that is good about them. If you don’t give them appropriate praise and appreciation then they may lose their self-confidence. I think you will never like to lose self-confidence of your child. You should develop habit of appreciation in yourself to praise your children’s good things at least three times as much as you give them negative feedback. It is also equally important to tell your kids when they are doing something wrong.
You should never compare your children to others. No every child can possess equal quality. You should celebrate their differences and motivate them to pursue their interests and dreams. You should avoid doing anything which cause to give your child an inferiority complex. If you really want to improve the behavior or your kids then you should talk about meeting their objectives in their own terms. You should never force them to act like their sister/brother or neighbor. Your focus should be on developing a loving and affectionate relationship between your children, not a competitive one. So take care of it; and avoid comparing.
Be a Listener
You must be a listener, not a dictator. You must listen your children what they want to say to you. Make sure your child is not afraid of you while he or she wants to say something to you. So; you should create an atmosphere where you children can share their problems to you without any fear or hesitation. If your child wants to say something to you then don’t ignore it. Drop everything you are doing and listen carefully what actually he or she say. It would be the best if you set aside a time especially to make conversation to your kids everyday.
Time and Presence
Make time for your children and be present whenever they need you. Play with your children in spare time. Listen to them and respect their feelings. Take them to a park, theme parks, museum or amusement parks depending on their interests at least once in a week. Spend time with your children when they are doing their homework and assist them as well. Attend school functions to appreciate them and make them feel you are there for the milestone. Remember, your employer may or may not bear in mind that you missed that conference, but your children will most certainly keep in mind that you did not be present at the school function they were in. Never miss any important milestone of your kids because you may regret for that for the rest of you life. You must figure out time from your hectic work schedule so that you can spend some quality time with your children and be present there for their milestones.
Don’t behave as parents. Behave as friends with your children and make them feel you are always with them to help with any problem. Make them feel you understand them and can resolve any problems of their lives. Talk to them in their own terms and advice them like a good friend. Involve yourself in their games.